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  • Child Custody,  Coparenting

    Co-Parenting When Medical Issues Arise

    When my dad was hospitalized, I reflected on my blessings. Two parents who love me and my sister. I also had time to think about all those cases (not one or two, but MANY) over the years in which parents so hated each other, that the kids were forced to endure revolting behavior from one or both  of their gene donors. And those past cases (which translate to living, breathing kids for me) basically  ticked me off. Now those of you who have learned to put aside your differences and think of your children first, probably can’t imagine not telling the other parent when their child is in the hospital…

  • Coparenting

    Respect: An Integral Element of Co-Parenting

    Basically co-parenting boils down to “cooperative parenting” or parenting together. It is a firmly held belief with professionals that children fare better when parents can minimize any trauma during and after their divorce and can communicate, cooperate, and compromise with consistency. Respect is an integral element of co-parenting effectively. I realize not everyone ends their relationship amicably. It would be great for them and their children if that were possible, but unfortunately, it isn’t always. Co-parenting is even more difficult when a marriage ends with hostility. However, it is extremely important for your children that any animosity be put aside. You have to put your children’s needs and best interests…

  • Child Custody,  Coparenting

    Using Kids to Communicate With Your Ex – Don’t Do It

    A friend reported over-hearing a conversation between a mother and child recently. The mother was telling the child to tell her father things that basically the mother should have been discussing with him. And the child was telling the mom how the father wouldn’t listen to her as “that’s not what’s in the court papers”. I’d like to be able to say this hardly ever happens. But I can’t. During the past 20 years, I’ve often heard similar conversations myself or more tragically — children’s versions of these conversations. This is probably the second “wish” kids have who have parents involved in custody litigation. When I asked kids what they…

  • Child Custody,  Coparenting

    Toxic Relationships

    Let’s say you have a child with someone. And, that someone and you have an on again off again kind of relationship. One that sometimes gets very volatile. In most instances, it’s probably best that this relationship end and that you have as little to do with each other as possible. But, you have a child, so you still have to communicate and possibly see each other occasionally, so it will be difficult to say the least. I’m not talking about the normal end to a relationship where you’re hurt and angry, you might even say some things that are regrettable, but with time you’re able to move on. I’m…