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  • Coparenting

    Respect: An Integral Element of Co-Parenting

    Basically co-parenting boils down to “cooperative parenting” or parenting together. It is a firmly held belief with professionals that children fare better when parents can minimize any trauma during and after their divorce and can communicate, cooperate, and compromise with consistency. Respect is an integral element of co-parenting effectively. I realize not everyone ends their relationship amicably. It would be great for them and their children if that were possible, but unfortunately, it isn’t always. Co-parenting is even more difficult when a marriage ends with hostility. However, it is extremely important for your children that any animosity be put aside. You have to put your children’s needs and best interests…

  • Child Custody,  Coparenting

    Using Kids to Communicate With Your Ex – Don’t Do It

    A friend reported over-hearing a conversation between a mother and child recently. The mother was telling the child to tell her father things that basically the mother should have been discussing with him. And the child was telling the mom how the father wouldn’t listen to her as “that’s not what’s in the court papers”. I’d like to be able to say this hardly ever happens. But I can’t. During the past 20 years, I’ve often heard similar conversations myself or more tragically — children’s versions of these conversations. This is probably the second “wish” kids have who have parents involved in custody litigation. When I asked kids what they…

  • Child Custody,  Coparenting

    Social Media Is Not Always Your Friend

    Facebook, twitter, instagram, etc. can all be fun and entertaining. They have their uses. They’re great tools for building a business platform. Facebook is an excellent way to stay in touch or even get back in touch with family and friends. Interesting people and topics can be found daily. And, the cat videos! We love those, right? However, you should be careful what you post because it can come back and bite you in the… umm…nether region. Now don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to squash all your fun. But, if you’re a divorced/separated parent and posting pictures of yourself in a drunken stupor or high (although I don’t…

  • Child Custody

    Stalking

    Many times over the years, people brought in copies of emails (or phone records, etc.) from their ex or soon to be ex as part of their interview for their custody evaluation. Their hope was that the information in the emails or other documents would make the other person look bad. They never seemed to think that what they were doing –spying — was wrong. They always had an excuse for what they did. However, it doesn’t matter. The fact that they violated the privacy of the other person was inappropriate. I’m not talking about emails between the two of them. I’m talking about private emails to other people –…

  • Child Custody

    Prescription drug abuse

    When people talk about drug abuse, they typically mean illegal drugs. Heroin, cocaine, marijuana, and methamphetamines usually come to mind. And, yes, if you are using any of these, you need to get help as soon as possible. But, what about those drugs you obtain with a prescription? Pain pills, muscle relaxers, mood modifiers, etc. can be a real problem as well. I’ve seen people who wouldn’t dream of using an illegal substance become so addicted to a prescription drug that they do things I’m sure if they were thinking straight, they’d never consider. Do you go to more than one doctor to get pain pills, etc without letting each…